Why women have extramarital affairs?
Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on ever since old ages. Affairs can be filled with problems, cause despair, and other troubles. Also you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, money, age dissimilarity, religious upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek an extramarital affair. I think typically though it is just the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody can turn the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos culture has erected against affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your family or anybody else? You will need to minimize the danger you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest group, enormous actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your funds are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair from time to time solves the trouble while keeping the marriage intact.
Ignoring, sadly this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, usually the gentleman is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a man I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is vanished, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply developed distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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